When I think back at the most difficult times of my life, and recall the feelings I was feeling at the time, I never would have guessed that it would all eventually work out. When we are upset or confused or angry or lost, those emotions can take over our sense of reasoning and make things feel worse than they really are.
This weekend I was able to realize how time has such a miraculous way of smoothing out the waves. Time passes and we move on. Situations resolve, sometimes without even trying. If we take a video of the difficult and dark moment of our past and then a video several months or years later, things can, and likely will, look completely different.
I often like to think of life in the form of a book or movie. All stories have villains, heroes, highs, lows, drama, laughter, tears, crossroads and more. If our life is also a book or movie, the snapshot of our dark moments are and should only be that – a snippet in the grand scheme of our whole story. The problem though, is that so many people get stuck in a moment, experience or let down that it is like their story ends there.
That is not the case at all; life doesn’t have to end in the difficult times. It is an opportunity to get stronger, it is a time to learn more about ourselves and what we want and don’t want. It is a chance to start fresh, move on and make new decisions.
It would be interesting to list all of the rough parts of my life as their own separate chapter of a book or scene in a movie and identify the villain, the hero, the high, the low, the drama, the laughter, the tears and the crossroad. It would be like a very deep life lesson to see if there are any patterns or similarities in each segment.
I actually believe that this will allow us to step outside of ourselves, as a third party and write about ourselves, just for pure entertainment, without any intention of sharing it with others. I hope that you will try this experiment to see what your life story looks like so far.
What would the title of your book or movie be? How far into your story are you right now? Is there more to do? Is there another chapter or scene you would write, if given the opportunity?
The good news is that you do have that available to you. You get to decide what you are going to do next. If you are in one of the lows, there will be light. If you are on high, you may soon be at a crossroad. If you are in the hero, that is cool. If you are the villain, well…. why?
There are a couple of people today who might have called me the villain, because I finally spoke up about a matter that has been causing an ongoing source of stress; however, their perspective and my perspective are opposite.
The end of this chapter is that I will no longer tolerate disrespect by anyone. I am usually fair, respectful, but straight forward with people, but have no problem stepping up my assertiveness when the situation calls for it. It reminds of policing where some people, with a chip on their shoulder, practically beg to be arrested or be given a ticket.
At the end of the day, it will all work out. Tomorrow will be a new day. Next month something new and years from now, it will all be a distant memory. Any anger today will be long forgotten tomorrow.
Life is like that. You put one foot in front of the other and it goes on. Are you stuck on one page of your story or will you move forward?
What would you like to do next, in your story? What are you waiting for?
‘You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the *&!# on.’ ~ Tupac Skakur