Dear ‘Tina’


Dear ‘Tina’, I want to apologize. I know that I had to ask you to stay away from our property this past week, but I made a mistake. After doing this, I didn’t take the time to find out what you needed, to get help. I apologize that I was too busy and consumed with the reasons for asking you to stay away, that I didn’t reach out to you, as a fellow human being.

After you left, I picked up the brochure that you had dropped, for Breton House. I am hoping that you are staying there, considering a place there or doing programming there. I am hoping that you remember the name of the place, in case someone had recently given it to you, as a resource.

I really want to believe you ‘Tina’ and I suppose it is possible that there was a misunderstanding about why you were holding someone else’s belongings. I will give you the benefit of the doubt. I do appreciate, though, that you removed your shoes at the door.

Although I know nothing about you and I doubt that your real name is ‘Tina’, I suspect that you are not currently living your life in the way you had hoped for yourself. I doubt that you are interested in continuing to struggle with addictions or living on the street or working on the street or whatever it is that caused to be running from someone, as you arrived.

I want you to get help. I want you to feel better about yourself. I want you to live in a healthier way. If we had more time to talk, I would have asked you what you needed. I would have taken the time to listen about what is underneath all of the drama that surrounds you.

I hope that you have already or are in the process of taking the steps you need to take to shift the direction of your life. There are so many organizations or programs where you can get help.

For those who are reading, I hope that you are able to reach out to the ‘Tina’s’ who cross your path, in a way that I failed to do in this particular interaction. Although I am usually the one who goes above and beyond for people who are struggling, I was unable to see past my own frustration to take the time needed.

If you are a ‘Tina’, I hope that you reach out, accept resources, take steps, or do what it takes to allow others to help you on your life journey, towards healing from whatever it is that you are dealing with. I suspect that ‘Tina’ has experienced a lot of pain in her life.

‘Tina’, if you are reading this, I dropped the ball. I apologize. I just want you to know that you deserve better for yourself. You can get healthy. You are worthy of living a safe, peaceful and happy life. ‘Tina’, I am sorry that I am another individual who pushed you away. I do hope that you forgive me for failing to reach out to you, even though I had to do what I had to do.

Every human being deserves to feel valued, cared about, recognized, seen, heard, appreciated, respected and loved. Even when someone’s behaviour tends to concern or upset people who the ‘Tina’s’ come in contact with, he or she still deserves a chance at a better life.

For you, ‘Tina’, I will send prayers and positive energy that you will get the resources, support and network you need to make positive changes. I truly believe that you will. You are much too young to be so alone, afraid and in pain. It is time to heal and move forward…

‘Every single time you help somebody stand up you are helping humanity rise.’ ~ Steve Maraboli

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