Driving through my first snowstorm of the year, I was surprised that it was happening in Muskoka. I guess the odds were pretty good, considering that I spent thirty hours driving over the span of four days this week. It was during that time where I was able to immerse in listening to my thoughts, dozens of personal development audio programs and talk radio shows.
I have concluded that our lives are in a state of perpetual motion, either moving toward something or away from something. Like a push and pull effect, we seem constantly torn. When we are moving in one direction, it often means that we are leaving something else behind.
Over the last four months, I have been moving toward building a new and exciting business venture while also researching how my body has been responding and reacting during that time. My body was crying out to me that I needed to let up. It was unable to handle the pace and craziness.
In an effort to move toward creating a space of energy and wellness for others and what has been a dream and goal of mine for many years, I ended up temporarily moving away from a state of balance and wellness in my own life. It is like something had to go through a period of suffering in order to accomplish my grand intention.
As someone who reflects, dissects and analyzes every life event, I have been confused. Why is it that life is so hard? When individuals make decisions to go back to school, improve themselves, seek help, create something positive or make a meaningful life change, it can be so riddled with challenges, obstacles, difficulties and setbacks. Sometimes it seems that it would have been easier to leave things the way they were.
Unfortunately, it takes work to get where we want to go and it usually means that our situation might have to get worse before it gets better. If we allow those setbacks to prevent us from continuing on our path, we are making a choice. We are deciding that it is not worth the aggravation or the effort and end up selling ourselves short.
In a full renovation project, we must take out all of the stuff in the space, do the demolition, make a mess, tear walls apart, get down to studs and subfloors and generally put the place in a state of chaos. It must get worse before it gets better.
This is like our lives – when we are living, we have a choice to make. Leave things the way they are, so as not to upset the status quo or boldly choose to continue to plow forward, upset the tea cart, pack up what you no longer want for your life and overcome all of the barriers all the way, toward the positive changes that you envision for yourself.
Either way, we are in perpetual motion. We are moving every day anyway. We are constantly making decisions. We have to get up, go out, do things, and face life’s messes anyway. We may as well move in the direction of where we want to go, instead of staying stuck in where we are.
If I had to change anything about the last four months, I am not sure exactly what I would have done differently. I was immersed in frantic changes, new tasks, mounds of paperwork, continuous decisions and an endless list of items to accomplish. In the end, it was all worth it and I am feeling back on track.
Yes, life is hard. Each and every one of us has our own story of what is causing is stress and turmoil. Each person handles things differently. Each one of us is on a different path. We however, we are all still on a path. We can’t just stay still.
If we are going through this complicated life anyway, we may as well choose wisely. Move this way or that way. One will move us closer to our ideal life. The other will just move us. The choice then, is up to us.
Which direction are you moving? Are you going to let those obstacles stop you along the way or will you keep going? You are much stronger than you think….
‘You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.’ ~ Maya Angelou