I felt a wave of extreme pride reading an event that my daughter has decided to put on, for a group of young moms. She had started a Facebook page and already arranged one event for the girls to participate in. This event is going to be the second.
Thinking back, I am not quite sure if I ever directly wrote about the fact that my daughter is still in her teens and has an almost two year old boy. My handsome grandson is the little man in my life and he fills my heart with joy, every time I see him, think of him or hold him.
I must admit though, that finding out about my daughter’s pregnancy was one of the most difficult moments in my life as a parent. It didn’t matter how many conversations we had about choices, it happened and it was a shocking event in all of our lives.
It took me several weeks to get over the anger I was feeling. I couldn’t believe it was happening. In short order, and with a shift in perspective, I moved to a place of acceptance. Now, I cannot imagine my life without this adorable, delightful and loving child who makes me overflow with love. I cannot put into words how much love I feel for him. It is beyond explanation.
What I know; however, is that despite how we might plan, hope or attempt to shape or guide our children, there are some things that are out of our control. Sometimes, we just need to throw in the towel and admit that life has its own plan.
Sometimes, we are left wondering how it is that things manage to get so complicated or difficult or painful. No matter how much effort, planning or work we put into our life plan, it sometimes doesn’t work out the way we thought it would.
All I know is that as complicated as some things are, when we let go of worrying about what other people will think or let go of the ‘what ifs’, we can then make decisions about how best to care for, support and enjoy the people in our lives and also make a difference in the lives of others.
When I read the Christmas event that my daughter is arranging for other young moms, I cried. It makes me beam with pride at how she has taken a difficult situation in her life and made it so positive. She is a loving, fun, playful and happy Mom to her son and his joy of life demonstrates that.
Although life can be so hard for so many reasons, we have to just remind ourselves of the beautiful people, the caring people, the loving people and the good that exists in our lives. We have to do our best to let go of the things that we are unable to control or the things that we can’t take with us to our grave.
I have found that the moments of true happiness, peace and joy in my life usually stem from the times that I spend with my loved ones or quality time nurturing relationships and my own health and wellness.
I believe that when we strip away all of the drama, blame, chaos, anger, frustration, sadness and pain of life, for even a few moments, we will realize that in the grand scheme of things there are only a few things that really matter.
It is up to us to decide exactly what those things are and if we are willing to eat away our limited time on this planet, wasting those precious moments. What might you decide to focus your attention on, for the rest of your days? Asking this question tends to bring clarity to how I choose to spend my time and energy. Hopefully, it will for you as well….
‘A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.’ ~ Ken Keyes