I Choose…


Have you ever noticed how we gravitate toward the same types of things, over and over again?

If we are into scarves, we will easily get off track of our original shopping list, in order to browse the scarves at the end of the aisle. If you are like my husband, you will happen to gravitate into Canadian Tire, if you are within a two block radius.

If you are a movie buff, you will gravitate toward the bin of loose DVDs, even though you know you don’t need any more DVDs for your collection.

Writing is like that for me.

Even though I know that I don’t like the pressure of having to write on a schedule, I am constantly gravitating back toward writing a column. Even though I always make tons of grammatical errors when I write, I continue to gravitate toward writing articles about life and my experience of it.

Even though I try to talk myself out of writing and attempt to fill my journals instead, it is not the same as writing for other readers.

Journalling to me is like writing for sport; it has no real meaning to others and takes up time doing something, just for the fun of it. Having a column, on the other hand, is like writing for a purpose and deciding to do something of value, with my time and energy.

When I put it that way, I don’t really have a choice. Since my last column, ‘This Rocky Life’ ended up going dark and dreadful, as my writing direction had to be on identifying a difficult situation, in order to turn it around, I found that I was focusing my energy and attention on being negative.

Someone even suggested that I change the title to, ‘This Wonderful Life’. Even if it turned the article around in the end, it continually brought up difficult times, painful thoughts and negative energy. This time, I decided to make this column about our ability to choose the good, in a life where there is so much chaos around us.

Blue Sky Julie Hryniewicz‘I Choose…’ will be a place where I can share my lifelong mission of deciding what to give my attention, energy and focus to. Since I went through over three decades of my life feeling like a passenger in my vehicle of life, instead of the driver, I am ecstatic about talking about the key to what gets me through my days, in a way that feels fulfilling, appreciative and grateful.

I want others to understand and hang on to the power that each and every one of us has to choose to experience our brief time on this planet in a way that is meaningful, thoughtful and conscious.

Allowing ourselves to be dragged along, bouncing up and down behind a moving vehicle, hanging on for dear life, as we gather cuts, bruises, scrapes and scars from our life ride, is what so many people are currently doing.

There is a better way.

I hate to tell you, though, that we will continue to get damaged and battered throughout life. It is inevitable that we suffer, experience pain, have to deal with grief, have problems, issues and events that hurt us and are difficult to handle; that is a given.

What we do have; however, is a choice how we address all of that stuff. Once we really get that we have a choice, it can dramatically shift our experience of the world.

I am stoked to write again, after several months of a writing breather.

I have had so many life experiences and insights to share with you, with the intention of adding value, entertainment, humour or perspective to your life journey.

I hope that you will join me on the ride. (You can stay inside the vehicle though; no need to be dragged behind your car anymore.)

On that note, I am going to leave this article here, as I get excited about what I will share with you in future articles for this column.

I choose to be surrounded by nature, be grateful for the glimpses of sunshine, signs of spring ahead and melting icicles outside my window.

I feel ignited, renewed, refreshed, replenished and ready to delve right back into conveying my often bizarre and crazy thoughts of this life, with you.

What positive things will you choose to notice today?

‘We are the creative force of our life, and through our own decisions rather than our conditions, if we carefully learn to do certain things, we can accomplish those goals.’ ~ Stephen Covey